Tell A Friend You Love Him

How do you tell a friend you are in love with him or her? This is a very hard choice because it can result in rejection and ruining a good friendship. However, the one time I told a friend I was in love with him I did not regret it because even though we did not get married, it ended up being one of the best dating experiences of my life. There is no advance preparation needed for telling a friend you love him, just drop in casual conversation and see how he responds. When I finally admitted to my friend that I was in love with him we were at a luau, so it could be anywhere and at anytime. However, if you are a true romantic you could arrange to have a romantic dinner, which might help your friend figure out what the message is trying to be conveyed. These are just a few of my suggestions because I believe in saying what I feel and sharing my emotions, but if someone does not want to say those things they do not have too. If I truly am in love with my friend I feel I have nothing to lose by letting him know.

Honestly, I hope if and when I do get married that I am friends with the man first because I feel it is easier to get along with someone when you are their friend. If you are dating a man that is not your friend, what do the two of you really have in common? This was the question Carrie Bradshaw asked herself before she went off to Europe with Alek during the last season of Sex And The City. For years she had had an on and off relationship with Big, but he had always backed away when Carrie told him she wanted more. Thus, Carrie decided to make a commitment to Alek because he offered her what Big could not, even though it is very clear that these two have nothing in common.

Yes, I know Sex And The City is fiction and this is a real life issue, but many of the issues women dealt with on this show are true to life struggles of dating as a single woman. Sometimes people are friends for years and then one day they realize they are meant to be together. This is not always the norm and I would not wait around for my friend to marry me, but there are exceptions to every rule. Many long-term friendships eventually do become relationships that lead to marriage.
Big preferred to be Carrie's friend, so they started up an unconventional friendship that lasted through several seasons after they failed romance. Although this may not be the typical friendship most women and men have, I feel Carrie and Big are representative of those people who are friends and then become lovers because in the end it does work out between them. Since Big did not want to commit she went on with her life and eventually moved to France with Alek. Carrie learned in France that Alek was too engrossed in his art work and that she would never be a priority in his life, and Big finally realized that he wanted to have a real relationship with Carrie. So even though Big had rejected Carrie in the beginning, he eventually realized that she was the one he wanted to be with. If you have enjoyed the series you might enjoy watching the movie Sex in the City because it deals with many of these real life issues, but this movie is for adults and not recommended for children.


Although I do not agree with all the lifestyle choices that the women in Sex In The City make, I have always found this show to be a humorous and candid look at the life, love, and friendship. One thing I think women can learn from their friendships is that love is not and end all and be all in your life. So if you have a male friend that you love you should not be afraid to tell how you feel. If he is your true friend there is not risk involved and he will never say or do anything purposely to hurt you. Both of you will be able to work through any hard feelings and a strong friendship will remain in place if there was a real friendship to begin with. However, if this person was not really your friend in the first place that is the only time he or she would become offended or act rude. You may be surprised and it may turn out your friend has loved you for years and was just waiting for the right moment to come clean.
People should keep in mind that friendship lasts longer and "romantic love" is often fleeting. After a few years of marriage the type of love a couple shares is based more on respect, mutual trust, and friendship, which shows that in the long run a strong friendship is important in every romantic relationship. Even though I was willing to take the plunge and let my friend know that he loved me, that does not mean every woman or man should do this. Only say these words if you:

• You will have no regrets.
• See signs that he or she thinks the pair of you as a couple.
• Know that this is a solid friendship that cannot be destroyed by a disagreement or misunderstanding.

Also, it is important to remember that love is not the end all and be all in life and women can rely on their friends to be there for them and to care for them, even when they are single or married. Life does not revolve around romance, but we should not be afraid to express our feelings or romance for someone we truly love. Also, I wanted to address the comment someone made in the comment section by contending my friend was not in love with me because that was simply not the case. I never admitted he did not reciprocate the love, what I said was we decided the relationship was not going to work out. Grounded individuals are able to admit when something is not working and quit while they are ahead. If a person is your friend and you decide begin a relationship, who knows, it may turn out to be a story book ending. However, if it does not work out a true friend will remain your friend and have no hard feelings. The friendship may have some problems at first, but talking things through will resolve many issues that can arise. In the end I feel there is nothing to lose by taking the plunge and telling your friend that you love him.